Common problems with condoms and how to resolve them
Sometimes in life, things don’t go to plan…
What do I do if the condom break/splits?
If a condom is not put on correctly, i.e. air becomes trapped in the tip – the air pressure can cause it to break or split. Oil-based lubricants can damage a condom and cause it to break also. If this happens, take a deep breath, stay calm and take the condom off carefully to reduce leakage. Wash yourself in case of leakage and sit down with your partner and discuss what you’re going to do.
If you are in a monogamous relationship (long-term with the same person) and know each other’s sexual health history but were a not using the “double dutch” method, then emergency contraception is your best option (if you want to prevent pregnancy). If you are not in a relationship, then a STI test will be needed as well.
What do I do if it slides off?
If it slides off, there is a chance that semen may have leaked outside of the condom. Similar to the previous situation, take the condom off and if you want to continue, use a new one. If you feel it may have leaked and are worried, talk to your partner and discuss what you want to do (ex. whether you want to get emergency contraception).
What do I do if it is put on inside out?
If a condom is put on inside out it can cause you problems trying to rolling it on. If it doesn’t roll out, don’t turn it around as there will most likely be some semen on the condom. Get a new one. See above for how to put on a condom properly.
What do I do if it is too tight?
In this situation the condom is most likely too small. It will still be effective but your partner may be uncomfortable! Most condoms adjust to a man’s penis, as there are usually only small differences in size. Some men are bigger than average and require larger sized condoms. In future, make sure you and your partner get a condom that is the right size.
What do I do if it is too loose?
There could be two separate problems here – either the penis is not fully erect or the condom is too big. Most condoms are made to accommodate most men. Condoms are available in slightly smaller sizes and you should make sure the size of the condom is the right size for the penis it intends to go on. Some guys may like to buy “extra large” condoms to cater to their egos but buying bigger sizes does not magically increase the size of a penis! Bottom line – always make sure it’s the right size.
What if the condom in a wallet out of date?
Don’t even think about using it. Put it in the bin. Get a new one.
What if we use two?
This is not a good idea. referred to as ‘double bagging‘, using two condoms may seem logical for extra protection but in fact two will cause friction off one another and cause them to split. Stick to using one and using it properly.
And a final note….
“It seems like such a huuuggge effort, I mean I don’t know if I can be bothered…”
We understand why you may feel like this and we understand that sometimes these things can be seem like they may take too uch time and stress. But that brings up a very important point – maturity. The media gives us the impression, that women, can drop their knickers on a whim and have mind blowing sex without having to face any consequences, which, as you know, is very far from the truth.
Sex can be a very rewarding part of a relationship, if and when both partners are taking part for the right reasons and have a mature attitude towards safe sex, both emotionally and physically. If you or your partner are not comfortable or cannot be bothered discussing contraception or any issues regarding sex, odds are that you’re not ready to start having it .
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